So much to say. I am very touched by the kindness and respect of almost all of the people who reached out here on this blog. This is our discussion; this is our issue to move forward. It’s obviously the right time. CNN told me that the essay that brought you here had the most page views and the most comments of any iReport. Every one of you has contributed to chipping away at the stigma (an appropriate word) towards non-believers, or even of those who have beliefs outside the mainstream.
I didn’t get a chance to read many of the comments on CNN. There were just too many, and there was a lot of fighting. But I did notice a common theme from the comments I’d read. Believers think that we aren’t giving our kids a choice. That’s just not correct. We can tell our children stories of the Lochness Monster. We can tell them the legends, the unproven stories of a water creature that would be discounted as hearsay in court. We would not be offering a choice; we would be convincing, persuading, or as some would say, brainwashing.
As a parent, we make many decisions for our kids: where they live, what they eat, the schools they attend. It is our choice to decide if we should pass faith onto our children. Faith is unsubstantiated. Faith, as we all know, is not fact. When our children are old enough to process and think through issues on their own, then they can make their own choices.
Before that, our children just need to know that we are honest with them. If we do not believe, why would we push someone else’s belief system onto our kids? That would be dishonest. This is not to say that Christian parents and parents of other faiths are not being honest. They are believers, so that is their reality. We are nonbelievers and this is ours.