My kids always ask me what I want for ______ (fill in the blank with Mother’s Day, birthday, Christmas), and every time I tell them the same thing. Don’t get me anything. I don’t want stuff. Write me a letter and tell me what I’m doing right. Yet every time, I get a store-bought card with someone else’s words (and being boys, they are not so much into words as into the funny noises the body can make). So, either I’m not doing anything right or my kids are trying to tell me that they don’t like to write. Seeing that I used to make them write book reports over the summer and critiques of commercials they watched on public TV, I get that. When you’re a mom, you just never know if what you’re doing is right. Sometimes great ideas turn out to be mistakes. Sometimes mistakes turn out to be great ideas. I now know that forcing my kids to write did not foster a fondness of it.
A good friend of mine once said, it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make with your kids, as long as there is love in the home and your kids feel it, that makes up for everything. That’s what I’m counting on to cancel out all the times I lost my temper or dropped the ball. That’s what I hope is true for all of us, stumbling through life, just trying to be the best mothers, daughters, wives, sisters and friends we can.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the great moms out there who are working hard to develop a product (kids) that will make a better future for everyone. And thanks to all the men who encourage us.
Peace, love, hope and hugs.
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It’s the reason for the season. Or, so the neon sign says in my neighbor’s yard. Ironically, also in his yard is a large figure of Santa with his reindeer. So the reason is? Santa and his magical reindeer? Consumerism?
We have real issues with Christmas in this country. On one hand, we shop, shop, shop buying meaningless stuff for family and friends who already have too much stuff, while on the other hand, we insist that the 25th of December is a religious holiday. If we are celebrating the birth of Christ, why do we even ask for gifts? Why do we encourage our children to ask for stuff for themselves when we are celebrating the birth of Jesus? Why do we pile meaningless stuff under the tree and pretend that Santa brought them? Wouldn’t it be more appropriate to say that God brought the gifts?
This holiday is just a guise, of course. It is about us. We are the reason for the season.
Of course, we could buy gifts for Jesus’ birthday, but where would he wear that tie?
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The tragedy in Newtown is already out of the headlines, fading from memory. The stores are packed with Christmas shoppers. Parents are eager to leave their children with sitters for a night out.
This is the fate of every tragedy, every death. The rest of us go on. And when nature one day turns and rids the planet of the human species, the rest will go on….
Has anyone read the “11 Days Before Christmas” poem written by Cameo Smith? If not, click on the link in the last sentence, and it will take you there. The author, no doubt, was trying to infuse comfort into a very tragic day. But her poem shows our nation’s religiocentricism: if any of those children did not believe in Jesus Christ, if any of those children were Jews, Muslims, Atheists, then they did not go to God’s house.
I understand why people want to bring God in to help explain a tragedy, but I think it is a cowardly approach. Rather than take a difficult look at why this happened and how we can prevent it, we defer responsibility to God. We “told” God to go away; we don’t “allow” him in schools. Never mind that this imaginary person that is supposed to be almighty has allowed murders, child abuse, wars, brutal beatings, torture and millions of heinous acts to be committed throughout the history of mankind. Does. This. Make. Sense?
Sure, people should be allowed to write their poems and hold their religious beliefs, but they should not abduct common sense nor prevent us from looking at the real issues. Tragedies don’t happen because we run superstition and imaginary people out of our educational system.
We are the problem, and only we can be the solution.
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